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Post # 51

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The Importance of a Powerful Comeback after a Disheartening Downfall 

Sometimes, life does not just hand us lemons — it pelts them at us with the force of a fastball. The world feels upside down and it is in these crushing moments that we discover the true value of rising again. This piece explores the beauty, challenge, and necessity of comebacks in the face of despair.

The Fall

Life has a funny way of knocking us down. Sometimes, it feels like it is testing just how many times we can fall before deciding it is time to rise again. These moments of failure, heartbreak, or defeat can leave us feeling like the wind has been knocked out of our sails.

The Comeback

But here is the good part: the comeback. A powerful comeback is not just about bouncing back. It is about finding strength in the wreckage and proving (mostly to yourself) that you are far more resilient than you thought. There is something undeniably human about being broken and then choosing to piece yourself together again. It is messy, sure. It is uncomfortable — like squeezing into jeans straight out of the dryer — but it is worth it.

Do not be afraid of the downfall or let it hold you back. Instead, take it as an opportunity to shine harder and enhance your surroundings to the utmost possible.

Why Resilience Matters

Resilience is the quiet superpower that keeps us moving when everything else seems to stop. It is not flashy or loud, but it is the very thing that helps us endure, adapt, and ultimately thrive in the face of adversity. In this section, we will explore why resilience is essential in shaping a meaningful comeback.

Clarity in the Struggle

Imagine life as a storybook. Nobody wants to read about a hero who never faces challenges. The struggle makes the triumph sweeter. When you hit rock bottom, you are gifted with something unique: clarity. You get to see who is really in your corner, what really matters, and — most importantly — what you are truly capable of.

Grit in the Comeback

Comebacks also teach us grit. They force us to tap into reserves of strength we did not know we had. Sure, it is not glamorous. It is a lot of baby steps, awkward stumbles, and plenty of “why am I even bothering?” moments. But every step forward is a testament to your willpower. And let us be honest — the comeback story always makes for a better conversation than the “everything went perfectly” story.

Clearly, resilience matters.

The Art of Rising

So, how do you pull off a comeback when everything feels like it is falling apart? Here is the truth: there is no universal blueprint. But there are a few things that can help:

Own Your Fall

Pretending it did not happen? That’s not going to work. Own it. Acknowledge what went wrong and why it hurt. This is not about dwelling in the negative but about understanding it so you can move forward.

Set a Tiny, Winnable Goal

Don’t aim for the stars just yet. Start with the moon. A small win — like getting through a tough day or completing a simple task — can remind you that you are capable.

Surround Yourself with the Right People

Comebacks are hard. You do not need energy vampires sucking the positivity out of you. Find people who cheer you on, even if your first victory is getting out of bed.

Redefine Success

Sometimes, the best comeback is not about climbing back to where you were but carving a new path entirely. And that is okay. Success is not always about reclaiming the old. It is often about creating something new.

More often than not, the art of rising may involve facing your fears and taking calculated risks. Plus, at times, you may prove to be adamant to make it happen.

Why It Is All Worth It

A comeback transforms more than just your situation. It transforms you. The process teaches humility — because failure is humbling. It teaches perseverance — because quitting is easy. And it teaches empathy — because once you have been there, you will understand what it is like for others.

Reflecting on the Journey

When you finally rise, you will look back and realise that the downfall was not just a chapter in your story. It was the prologue to your greatest chapter yet. You will see that every tear, every doubt, every sleepless night had a purpose.

Embracing Your Comeback

And that is when you will smile. Not because you have reached the top but because you found your way back up at all. So, the next time life throws you off balance, remember: the comeback is not just important. It is everything. And it is yours to write.

Of course, it is all worth it because, all in all, each downfall turns you into a better human being. Consequently, you contribute your bit to make this world a better place to be in.

Your Turn to Shine

Everyone has a comeback story waiting to be written. It is not about how many times you fall, but about choosing to stand up one more time than you have fallen. Your story matters, and it is never too late to begin the next chapter.

If this message spoke to you, follow this blog for more honest thoughts and real talk on life in general. Let us navigate the ups and downs together.

Post # 50

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Someone somewhere is dreaming to live a life like yours

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So, you are living in a rural area and you day-dream of living in a hi-fi locality all your life? You may be surprised to know but there do exist people who are located in posh areas and super willing to shift to a village, but can’t. They are now fed-up of all the challenges an urban life brings and just feel like giving-up all the hustle-bustle and just switch to a rural life but have responsibilities to fulfil and so, just can not do what they want.

And you must have heard of the willingness in people to switch their employed/unemployed status at some point of time. It’s common, nothing new. No doubt, the jobless are desperately looking for a source of employment but there do exist people who are well-paid in their professions but are so tired of their schedule and lifestyle that they just want to quit or take a break. They are just not able to.

Okay, so you are really ill. God forbid, may be suffering from a chronic disease and wondering who would be willing to live a hell life like that. Let me tell you, there do exist people who are so fed-up of serving others all the time, they just want someone to pamper them now. They are ready even if it happens at the cost of their health. They are craving for the attention that unwell people get. And yes, they are all set to bear the physical pain it may bring along.

Sometimes skipping a meal or getting drenched in the rain or receiving scolding from elders or a broken-heart or anything such for that matter, may look like a giant pain to bear but at the end of the day, all of us have something to be thankful for. Yes, everybody does and that includes you. Sometimes you might be having a hard day and life may seem like a steep uphill climb, but then there are phases. There are ups, there are downs. Why not instead of complaining about all your problems, rather count your blessings today and enjoy the positivity it fetches! Why not cherish that sweet delicious feeling even if it’s just momentary? The next moment may be hard, or worse, dark again. But believe me, in that case, there will be light again. Some time, some day, even if not sure when. Just keep up the faith and keep going. Just, believe.

Post # 49

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Dream career vs reality

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About a decade ago, a Bollywood movie was released, called ‘3 idiots’. It went through a few controversies and won numerous accolades. Of course, it had brought a lot of awakening to some parents too. About the importance of choosing the right career for their kids, that is. But many of us simply watched it as a movie and moved on too. I and my peers were students back then. By now, most of us have become parents. That time, we had perceived the message given by that movie as students, that is, we learnt that one should preferably choose a career by following one’s own passion. And parents should support this choice. Now, when we have become parents ourselves, we need to look at it with a different perspective. We should prepare ourselves to take care of and support our kids’ choice in the future. The question arises ‘how to do that?’ Well, let me explain through examples.

First, my own experience. Writing has always been my hobby but by now, it has become a passion too. Maybe you will find it surprising to know that till a little time back, I had neither realised it as a hobby, nor passion. Until about a couple of years ago, I used to consider myself as talentless and passionless. I used to dig my own instincts hard, only to wonder how I could be so passionless. I mean, everyone else seemed to have some or the other passion. I used to watch videos with titles like ‘it’s ok to not have a plan’. The particular one with that title was interesting and inspiring. But it couldn’t quench my thirst. I was looking, looking and looking to figure out my way ahead. But all in vain. Then life happened and here I am. Author, Blogger and now almost a Content Writer. Looking back, I feel it’s now that I have got married to my dream career (based on a dialogue in the movie ‘3 idiots’) while earlier I was in a toxic love affair with another field. Even more surprisingly, I have wasted more than a decade in the wrong line. But how did this blunder happen, would you like to know? Let me tell you, it happened because of the incorrect preference. For more than the first half of my school life, I was one of the top-scorer students in my class. But I never noticed that I used to always score better in the languages rather than other subjects. The Vice Principal in my senior secondary years did notice that. And in one of the Parents Teachers Meetings, she said to my parents about me – ‘She scores better in languages than in other subjects. She should go for journalism after 12th’. Now I find it humorous, how it had hit hard on my ego back then. As I was a student of Science and it used to be a matter of societal reputation back then. I know, for some people it still is. But then, as I said, the movie I named above and more like that, has brought some awareness in public. People are now more sensible in choosing a career. Still, I thought of spreading the word a little more, giving my own example. Now is that I feel my Vice Principal was right and I should have taken up a career in languages instead of what I chose. But better late than never. I am now putting my best efforts to explore possibilities in the line of my passion, i.e. Writing. I am all set to push my limits further.

At the same time, today I heard his own story from a friend who was, back then, trying to get into some career but his father forced him to get into some other. He followed and got into the one suggested by his father. And magically, he found his happiness in that field only. His career marriage was arranged by his father but he survived it so well, that it became the reason for contentment in his life. Can’t say whether it was by fluke or what. But I just mean to say, such cases also happen. And this makes my belief stronger that we living beings can put efforts for something to happen, within a limit only. Beyond that, it’s all fate.

I would anyway like to suggest, my readers, to take this matter more seriously. To dig deeper into the field they are looking to take up as a career for self, kids, or someone else. This is a much more sensitive matter than commonly understood. When considering fields for oneself, he or she must search the instincts completely before coming to a conclusion. Never do it in a haste. If needed, make a whole list of your own likes and dislikes. Interests and avoidance. Ifs and buts. Talk to experienced people about it, as much as possible. By tooth and nail, think properly.

Then is that you will enjoy what you do. You will find it fulfilling and be true to your instincts. Then only, life won’t be full of frustration in this matter and you will be able to take care of other things better as well. Then is that you will be married to your dream career and reality won’t suck. You will be on the right track towards the destination. Get set, go!

Post # 48

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Learning things ‘The hard way’

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I had read somewhere long ago but it’s an evergreen quote – ‘Life is like a question paper. But sometimes we forget that everybody has a different set of questions. And often we get stuck in chaos. If we focus on our own questions, maybe we can sail well through but that doesn’t happen, humans being social animals.’

When we are kids, we are mostly resistant to our parents’ instructions for our welfare and become naughty with patterns of fall, get up and repeat. Then we become teenagers, a little more grown-up but while some of us become understanding towards our surroundings, some others become rebellious towards anyone telling the difference between right and wrong, good and bad, etc. That time, all such instructions feel like preaching and we discard them calling names like ‘lecture’. In this age, we are usually in a fun mode and assume life to be easy, totally unaware of what all might be coming up and we proceed. When we get out of teenage, we get into adulthood and then the realities of life gradually start unfolding, one-by-one. At some point of time, much later, we have an urge to take a break and look back at our life journey so far. Then is that, we realize how granted we have been taking our elders and anyone who tried to show us the right way. Sometimes, It’s already too late to make any corrections but sometimes, we do get a chance. And then it’s up to us how we choose to proceed. Then we start learning all those things ‘the hard way’. As hard as a caterpillar trying to turn into a butterfly. On a lighter note, after some time, we have learnt some life -lessons and we may even find ourselves showing the right path to others now. And then those others are taking our words for granted and it goes on like a complete chain. Meanwhile, we also see some of our always obedient peers doing extremely well in life and we can only regret our mistakes.

Why did I bring this up? Well, just to come to the conclusion that while some lessons are better followed as per our people’s instructions, some things are better learnt the hard way. It has an effect like that caterpillar turning into a gorgeous butterfly. And once we have learnt the crucial basic life-lessons, life is beautiful!

Post # 47

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My lucky number is 7, but really?

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He worked by day and toiled at night.
He gave up play and much delight.
Dry books he read, new things to learn.
And forged head, success to earn.
He plodded on, with faith and pluck.
And when he won, they called it luck.

^ A piece of poetry from the popular book ‘You Can Win’ by Shiv Khera.

Do you believe in luck? Most of us do, in some way or the other. But how much of this belief is true? When is it considered good or bad? When does it become excess? What do you opine about the inevitable spread of similar superstitions in our society?

Well, I know these are all pretty debatable questions and their answers vary from person to person. To reach a generalisation about the topic is tough. Let’s analyse the pros and cons of superstitions today.

If you ask me about my say in the context, I’d put it as – Superstitions are good only till they provide us strength without imposing it on others, so much that the aimed person starts feeling tortured. As far as I can recall my conscious believing in some of them, I get only 2-3 in the list. Topmost is whenever I appreciate something or someone so much that I feel scared of evil eyes, I immediately utter “touchwood” after the praise. Talking about whether it works or not, I’d say – I don’t know but every time I utter this, I just mean to say that I don’t want this goodness to end because of any damn reason. So, in a way, it’s not much of a superstition but a message conveyed in very short.

Another one makes me tend to be humble as much as possible in my words and tone. It says ‘Din mein ek baar hamari zuban par Saraswati aati hain’ (Once in a day Goddess Saraswati visits us on our tongue) which means whatever we say at that moment, it comes true. Again, more than being a blind belief, it is my reminder to self in order to be polite in my spoken stuff. Plus I never imposed it on anyone. So, it’s hardly a harm in any sense.

As far as the number ‘7’ being lucky for me is concerned, I never take it too strictly or madly in everything I do. But sometimes when I have to choose a no. out of many and I get confused, then I select ‘7’. So, it only helps and no negativity attached.

Maybe I have a couple more of such beliefs which someone may consider as a superstition. But the point is that no one can claim that I tortured them with my blind belief. What I want to say is – a human belief is good only till it doesn’t become tortuous or harassing for others. So what if a black cat crosses our way! A black cat is as innocent as a cat carrying any other colour. Why cause delay and inconvenience for yourself if it crosses your path? Why do you have to stop if you sneeze while leaving for somewhere? What is your reason for any blind belief you have always been imposing on yourself or maybe others too, for that matter? Genuineness of a belief usually depends on the reason or logic behind them. Are you sure you have not put yourself into a cage of ‘n’ no. of superstitions and yourself suffering subconsciously? Are you really religious, spiritual or just superstitious?

Why not analyse it all today and get rid of the unnecessary beliefs that are causing you only suffering and no pleasure! Let’s make our surroundings more welcoming to positivity and good health while eradicating everything unnecessary. Let’s make our share of effort to make this world a better place to live in.

May peace prevail.