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Post # 56

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Seeking the Secret of a Happy Marriage? Think Again!

These days, we live in a world where relationships are constantly updating with changing times, and marriages break abruptly. Clearly, it is time to stop looking for a magic formula. Maybe the secret to a happy marriage is simpler: whatever works for you, works.

The Beauty of Uncertainty

Modern Marriage: the ultimate adventure in unpredictability. One day, you are laughing together over silly jokes. The next day, you are arguing over whose turn it is to do laundry. Spoiler alert: a secret formula does not exist. But that is the beauty of it.

The Problem with Perfect

Just like parenting, marriage is a journey without a manual. You are figuring things out as you go. This often involves a healthy dose of trial and error and includes a few awkward moments in between. The truth is, what works for one couple can prove to be a total disaster for another. So, how do you navigate this messy yet beautiful bonding called marriage?

Embracing the Unscripted

First, let us ditch the notion of “perfect”. It is overrated, anyway. Perfect is boring. Perfect is unrealistic. What is more important is finding what works for you and your partner. Maybe you are a couple that loves spontaneous adventures, or you thrive on routine and planning. Whatever it is, own it.

Let us be clear, though: “whatever works” does not mean tolerating the unbearable. No one deserves domestic violence, verbal abuse, mental torture, or any form of harm. Healthy relationships are built on respect, trust, and kindness.

The Myth of Compromise

One of the biggest myths about marriage is that it is all about compromise. Newsflash: it is not. It is about understanding and embracing your differences. Your partner is not a puzzle piece to fit into your life. S/he is a unique individual with her/his own quirks and strengths. Celebrate those differences, even when they drive you crazy.

Communication is Key (But Not Always Easy)

Communication is key, but let us be real, it is not always easy. Sometimes, it is as simple as saying, “Hey, I am stressed, can we talk about this later?” Other times, it is about digging deep and having those tough conversations. The point is, there is no one-size-fits-all approach. Find your rhythm, and make it work.

The Journey, Not the Destination

Another myth is that marriage is a destination. It is not. It is a journey, a dance, a messy, beautiful adventure. There will be ups and downs, twists and turns. The key is to enjoy the ride, even when it is bumpy.

So, What’s the Secret?

There is none. If we had to simplify it, it is about embracing the unscripted moments. It is about laughing together. It is also about being willing to figure things out together.

Some Unconventional Tips:

  • Be patient in trying to change each other (even if it rarely works, keep your expectations slow and steady)
  • Laugh at the little things (like the toothpaste cap being left off… again)
  • Have separate hobbies (it is healthy to have your own interests)
  • Communicate and communicate (but do not overdo it, a little mystery is nice)

Your Turn

What is your take on the secret of a happy marriage? Share your opinion in the comments below. Let us celebrate the brighter side of the sweet chaos called a happy marriage!

Post # 30

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The Fate of my Friend’s
Love Marriage

wedding

Her day starts early morning

With parents’ blames and plenty of scorning,

Her fault is that her marriage is not working

Even her father who used to be her King…

Now disdains, yells and shuns

Showering her with dozens of painful puns

Yes, she is at ‘her’ home,

At least that is what she thinks,

Her fate as if mocking at her, and winks.

Her husband, though not a drunkard

But has a rude behaviour and habits absurd.

When in a bad mood, he spills it out on her,

Things have only worsened year after year.

As if abuses and violence were all that she lacked,

These too came, along with her marriage, packed.

This wasn’t enough to make a bad marriage,

Destiny gifted her, moreover, with miscarriage.

Still, you see, just her husband wasn’t enough

To make her life tough,

Her in-laws misbehave, brother-in-law doing the most.

He even harassed her once when she was playing host.

She now regrets her decision and cannot even complain

As this marriage was her choice and now no love, at all, remains.

I often feel helpless, suggesting her to take a step,

But the lack of her own family’s support is what keeps the gap.

‘Where is my home?’ whenever wonders and asks

I really wish someday I could remove all the ‘masks’

Alas! I’m bound, with invisible rope in my hands,

I’m afraid I cannot do anything unless she takes a stand.

All that could be done by me and you is – pray,

That may things get only better for her, may her marriage stay.

Yes, stay is what I said because she is scared of the society and fate

Now only the magic wand could be spun by Almighty the Great.